Borchert, who based the script on his novel of the same name. In , Lois Burnham , a college-educated woman from an affluent family, met and fell in love with Bill Wilson , a 19 year old man of modest means. They married in , and after his return from World War I , the two set out to build a life together. While Lois worked as a nurse, Bill struggled to find his niche. Lois believed that Bill was destined for greatness, and despite his increasing reliance on alcohol, she showered him with love and support.
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By , Bill was working on Wall Street and the couple was living a luxurious lifestyle. Soon his job, their lifestyle and their dreams were all gone. In , after years of struggling to cover for Bill and trying desperately to manage his disease by herself, Lois finally saw him get and stay sober — not through her help, but from the support of a fellow alcoholic, Dr. Bob Smith. As Bill and Bob attained lasting sobriety and co-founded Alcoholics Anonymous , Lois began to feel neglected.
Bill got and stayed sober without her help, and she felt isolated and resentful.
Lois soon discovered she was not alone in her isolation and anger, and that there was a vast number of people whose lives and relationships had been devastated because a loved one was an alcoholic or drug addict. The film was set primarily in the United States but filmed in Canada. The film was given mixed reviews by critics.
Linda Stasi in the New York Post wrote; "Everyone does a wonderful job in this movie -- but, in the end, it seems more like a rehash of writer Wiliam G. The film has been nominated for several awards; . Screen Actors Guild Awards. From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia.
The Toronto Sun. There are no constraints or restrictions that limit who you may love in this world. Who you can feel deeply for the way you would care about your own child: without asking for anything in return, without expecting any compensation. Just pure, simple, unconditional love. However, that does not mean that you can have a relationship with anyone at all no matter how much you may care about them or adore that person, no matter how important that person may seem to you.
Pure, naked, unsupported love all by itself is not strong enough to hold up a happy, thriving, mutually beneficial sentimental partnership. A relationship is much, much more than just affection, passion, amorousness or preoccupation for someone.
A relationship, as I mentioned before, also needs respect, trust, freedom. Sometimes you may care deeply about someone, so deeply that you feel their hurts as if they were your own, you worry about them and you would do anything to ensure their happiness, but you may still not be able to have a sentimental relationship with that person. Or at least not a healthy, wholesome relationship that is good for you. You can't be with a person who will hurt you.
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Or with someone who doesn't trust you, and is thinking all the time that you are out to "get them" or to do them some sort of harm. These sorts of people should stay out of your personal, private life. Caring deeply about someone doesn't mean that you must stay by the side of that person always, live near or with them or move out to wherever they happen to live.
Sometimes you can only care about and watch over the person you feel deep emotion for from a distance. And it is better just to keep them at a distance. Perhaps that person hasn't yet learned how to treat other people — or at least other partners — with respect yet. Perhaps this person is still in the habit of hurting people that they are close to. But that's okay.
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You should put yourself out of the way of this person, to be sure that this person will not harm you. Even cut off contact, temporarily or permanently, with this person, if necessary. But that does not mean that you stop loving this person. Unless you actually want to. You can watch over them and take an interest in their lives from a distance.
A safe distance.
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Think that the first person in a relationship is YOU. You must love and respect yourself, before you can have a fulfilling, happy, mutually empowering relationship with someone else. Now, I'm not talking about a narcissistic, self-centred, self-infatuated sort of self-love. I refer more to a sort of relationship with yourself where you are your own best buddy.
Where you are friends with yourself, support yourself, take care of yourself and care about yourself, the same way you would a very dear friend. You don't have to consider yourself particularly good-looking in order to carry that out, greet yourself in the mirror with a smile and cheer yourself on. Do you choose your friends, or care about them, on the basis of their looks?
Do you make friends with someone, and then decide that you don't like this friend or care about them because they are plain? So why should you espouse a double standard when caring about yourself?
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Now, I myself am not capable of looking at myself in the mirror and thinking or saying to myself: Oh you are so beautiful. I mean, we do have to be realistic! Not all of us look like Claudia Schiffer or Marilyn Monroe. However, I do try to respect myself, take myself into account, take care of myself and never, ever let anyone trample on me or put me down. And of course, I never permit anyone who wishes to trample on me or put me down to have a close personal relationship with me. To me, this means, erecting strong boundaries , protecting myself and acknowledging that I have the right to protect myself, without the necessity of feeling guilty about putting up and maintaining strong defences, nor believing that I need to apologize to anyone for standing up for myself and taking care of myself.